There’s no such thing as winning an argument

Three different ethnic backgrounds, but all of them are friends.

As a business owner I know first hand about how important a relationship with customers is over me being right.

Certain brands have “Raving Fans” because those businesses are thinking of the customer and doing all they can to meet the needs of their customers with solutions they can provide.

One of the most challenging things I struggle with when looking out for a client’s best interests is when I know that a client will suffer because of a decision they are making.

In the 1980’s I remember my uncle, Knolan Benfield, quite clearly, discovering using a projector to show clients their family portraits.

Knolan Benfield in a bank lobby with his display of the pastors of the churches in Hickory, North Carolina.

He watched way too many people select 11×14 prints for their walls when they often needed a 40×60 to do justice to the print.

Knolan was able to help people understand that he wasn’t trying to make more money off a giant print but believed that images in a typical living room on the wall needed to be a specific size to be appreciated.

He had a watch and a clock in the room where he would project images. By having the most apparent miniature clocks, they would often squint to tell the time. Then he would point out the other clock where the size of the face was larger.

Then Knolan would project the photos on a screen. The projector lens was a zoom, so he could adjust the image size for the clients to see. Having them sit in chairs about the same distance from the walls of their house, customers would then pick the size they liked. Knolan even had frames to show with the photo once they chose the size.

A headshot could be much smaller than a large family outdoor group photo because when you make a face the size of a clock for telling time, you have a good guide that helps guide the customer.

Even with this show and tell, customers would choose smaller images when they saw the price difference. The hard costs prevented my uncle from giving them what they wanted and needed to enjoy the photo they had already invested a great deal to make.

At this point, Knolan had to choose the relationship over being right. If he pushed to show how wrong they were, the relationship would dissolve, and while they might still buy the smaller print, they wouldn’t be back for more photos.

I worked very hard taking these photos of people from around the world. I wanted you to get to know them. They are all God’s children. None of them should be treated like White supremacists do.

You cannot be profitable in business if you do not treat everyone with honor, dignity, and respect. You cannot look down on your customers. You must be able to look them in the eye.

I believe if the United States wants to survive, it must learn to act like a small business owner. They must work to embrace everyone they come in contact with.

Some great things will come from someone who puts relationships first.

One of the best things about dealing with people you disagree with is that it is pretty challenging. Being passionate about your ideas and beliefs makes it quite difficult for you to be willing to listen. I have found time and time again that I have done an abysmal job of thinking of all the ramifications of my thoughts. In the end, having someone challenge me is a good thing.

Your critical thinking cannot be selfish, or it is flawed. When grounded in fair-mindedness and intellectual integrity, it is more balanced.

When others disagree with your ideas, take it to heart and understand why they may not support an argument. This respect for others’ ideas means you are trying to see the other’s perspective. Learning to do this well doesn’t mean you will agree with them, but you can see why they have a different perspective.

ON THE BEACH: The first wave of Marines takes cover behind the sand dunes on Saipan beach, during the World War II invasion of Marianas Islands. The soldier kneeling in the sand at far right is Carl Matthews of Texas; second from right is Wendal Nightingale of Skowhegan, Maine; standing is Lt. James Stanley Leary of North Carolina. Neither Nightingale nor Leary made it home from Saipan; both are still listed as missing in action. [Time Life photo by U.S. Marine Sgt. James Burns] On June 15, 1944, during the Pacific Campaign of World War II (1939-45), U.S. Marines stormed the beaches of the strategically significant Japanese island of Saipan, with a goal of gaining a crucial air base from which the U.S. could launch its new long-range B-29 bombers directly at Japanís home islands.

This is my uncle James Stanley Leary during WWII as part of Anti-Fascists disrupting a large gathering of ethnic supremacists on Saipan.

In the past few days, Donald Trump has done much Mansplaining to the public through the media. Trump again blames ‘both sides for the Charlottesville violence, spurring outrage. Our military fought against regimes that believed in ethnic cleansing.

Throughout history, different groups have been persecuted. Very seldom are they able to stop the violence? The Indian people were not allowed to turn their crops into fabric by the British. They were beaten if they even owned a spinning wheel. It was Gandhi who used non-violence to show the world how they were being treated by the British.

Martin Luther King used peaceful protests to show how white supremacist would torture them in the streets.

I was at an event where the audience was The Honorable Maynard Jackson, Jr. He commented in a discussion that whites needed most to combat racism by standing up for their black friends.

I think he was right. Everyone needs to speak out against the injustice that is like what we saw in Charlottesville. We also need to hold our president accountable for the role of the presidency, which is to unify our nation and not divide it as his words are doing now.

We cannot allow this to happen to the United States. What happened in Germany after World War I qualified for a White Supremacist movement that caused World War II. It is hard to say how many people were killed during World War II, but estimates vary between 50 million and 80 million. Everybody agrees that it has been the deadliest war ever, wiping out around 3 percent of the world population at the time.

The Nazis were allowed to pursue winning their argument rather than building relationships.

Monday Devotional: Importance of community

Matriculation Day 2017 at The Citadel in Charleston, SC. [Fuji X-E2, 55-200mm, ISO 400, ƒ/4.8, 1/500]

Each year, a new class of cadets starts a new one at The Citadel. They come in, many of them being self-reliant, and many already understand the importance of community. Still, the process of the Knob year for the cadets is to integrate them into the corps of cadets.

“Do you think the Clemson students are going through this today?” I overheard some people as they watched the incoming freshman [knobs] moving into their dorms and getting oriented by the upperclassmen officers of the Cadre.

My wife, Dorie Griggs, has been writing a blog for Citadel parents since our Son was a student. He graduated in 2011. We decided to drive down to Charleston, SC, and help some of the parents as they dropped off their sons and daughters.

[Nikon D5, 85mm ƒ/1.8, ISO 100, ƒ/1.8, 1/1250]

Each year parents of older cadets help the new parents and incoming knobs move into their rooms. This is the paying it forward they feel compelled to do after their move-in experience the first year at The Citadel.

The Citadel Family Association helps identify all these upper-class parents with blue shirts.

[Nikon D5, 85mm ƒ/1.8, ISO 100, ƒ/1.8, 1/3200]

Before 7:00 am, parents with their cadets are lined up around the Alumni Center, where they find out which company their young cadet will be assigned to. We helped one student who flew from California and needed help getting to campus.

After their assigned company, they drive to the barracks, where the cadet goes in and meets the officers in the middle of the quadrangle, who will start the same process as all military organizations. You learn that you will be yelled at immediately and remember to follow orders.

[Nikon D5, 85mm ƒ/1.8, ISO 100, ƒ/1.8, 1/2000]

At every station you go to, another officer gets your attention, asks you many questions, or does certain things you find out you are not doing correctly.

The good news is that each officer was in those new cadets’’ shoes just a short time ago. They remember how it felt. However, they have been through the training and understand how the process works to build a cohesive corps of cadets.

It is Matriculation Day 2017 at The Citadel. Here, each student goes from one line to another throughout the day. These are the student officers who will train the Knobs. They are part of the Cadre. [Nikon D5, Nikon 85mm ƒ/1.8, ISO 100, ƒ/1.8, 1/1600]

They will learn to be in step with the corps of cadets. They will learn to hear just the voice of their commanding officer. They will learn to rely on each other.

It is Matriculation Day 2017 at The Citadel. Here, each student goes from one line to another throughout the day. These are the student officers who will train the Knobs. They are part of the Cadre. [Fuji X-E2, 55-200mm, ISO 400, ƒ/7.1, 1/125]

As I looked around, I watched the Cadre interacting with each other and the knobs. You see, there are friendships between them. You know the family that they have become away from their homes.

It is Matriculation Day 2017 at The Citadel. Here, each student goes from one line to another throughout the day. The new student reports to the sergeant, who tells them where to stand and when and where to sign a paper. [Nikon D5, Nikon 85mm ƒ/1.8, ISO 100, ƒ/2.8, 1/640]

It all starts with following those instructions that seem so silly as to stand behind the piece of tape, but not too far, and lean over and sign your name.

In just 3 hours, The Citadel had moved in 825 Knobs to their bunks and had them all dressed alike in the barracks in lines, ready to begin their college career. I wonder how many other schools can quickly move that many students into their dorms. It is military precision taking place on their first day of school.

[Fuji X-E2, 55-200mm, ISO 400, ƒ/4.8, 1/125]

They think of everything at The Citadel. Each cadet is issued a Camelbak that they must keep complete and drink from regularly. You can watch the Cadre coming behind them in formation, squeezing the Camelbaks to be sure they have water. They are telling them to drink their water.

[Fuji X-E2, 55-200mm, ISO 400, ƒ/4.2, 1/250]

While in formation, cadets must make the best of their time, yet they must wait for instructions. Here, the Cadre instructed them to read their Guidon. It has the rules of the Corps of Cadets. They must be able to recite this later in their training at a moment’s notice.

[Fuji X-E2, 55-200mm, ISO 200, ƒ/4.8, 1/105]

The Apostle Paul talked a great deal about the importance of the Corp of Cadets. Well, he called it being a part of the body of Christ.

Here is Paul’s’ letter to the Corinthians to get them to stop bickering and not working together.

1 Corinthians 12
One Body with Many Members
12 For just as the body is one and has many members, and all the members of the body, though many, are one body, so it is with Christ. 13 For in one Spirit we were all baptized into one body—Jews or Greeks, slaves[d] or free—and all were made to drink of one Spirit.

14 For the body does not consist of one member but of many. 15 If the foot should say, “Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,” that would not make it any less a part of the body. 16 And if the ear should say, “Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body,” that would not make it any less a part of the body. 17 If the whole body were an eye, where would be the sense of hearing? Where would the sense of smell be if the whole body were an ear? 18 But as it is, God arranged the members in the body, each of them as he chose. 19 If all were a single member, where would the body be? 20 As it is, there are many parts,[e] yet one body.

21 The eye cannot say to the hand, “I have no need of you,” nor again the head to the feet, “I have no need of you.” 22 On the contrary, the parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, 23 and on those parts of the body that we think less honorable, we bestow the more incredible honor, and our unpresentable parts are treated with greater modesty, 24 which our more presentable parts do not require. But God has so composed the body, giving more incredible honor to the part that lacked it, 25 that there may be no division in the body, but that the members may have the same care for one another. 26 If one member suffers, all suffer together; if one member is honored, all rejoice together.

27 Now, you are the body of Christ and individual members of it. 28 God has appointed in the church first apostles, second prophets, third teachers, then miracles, then gifts of healing, helping, administrating, and various kinds of tongues. 29 Are all apostles? Are all prophets? Are all teachers? Do all work miracles? 30 Do all possess gifts of healing? Do all speak with tongues? Do all interpret? 31 But earnestly desire the higher gifts.

And I will show you a still more excellent way.

You cannot be a leader or a follower if you are not a part of a community.

Matthew 28:18-20
Then Jesus came to them and said, “All authority in heaven and on earth has been given to me. Therefore, go and make disciples of all nations, baptizing them in the name of the Father, Son, and the Holy Spirit, and teaching them to obey everything I have commanded you. And surely I am with you to the very end of the age.”

How will you be a part of the community of Christ this week? Who will you teach? What do you plan to learn? How will you serve?

It is August are you going back to school?

[Nikon D3, 24-120mm, ISO 200, ƒ/11, 1/250 – Alienbees B1600 for fill flash]

This week, it is back to school for college students and other schools in Georgia. Monday morning, my drive took longer because all the school buses were picking up children to take them to their first day of school.

In many ways, this feels more like the beginning of a new year to me than New Year’s Day. There is such excitement for everyone.

[Nikon D3, 24-120mm, ISO 1000, ƒ/5.6, 1/1000]

It is new because so many students are going to a new place. They are moving down the hall to the next grade wing, or they are moving off to college.

[Nikon D3, 24-120mm, ISO 200, ƒ/14, 1/250 – Alienbees B1600 for fill flash]

For most of my career, I have been covering the back-to-school story and helping private schools and colleges with public relations and marketing materials.

[Fuji X-E2, 18-55mm, ISO 3200, ƒ/5, 1/100]

We moved our daughter in last week to her college dorm. We are starting a new chapter in our lives now with our youngest off the college.

[Nikon D3, 70-200mm, ISO 1600, ƒ/2.8, 1/250]

The first part of our life for 18 years is where we enroll in classes each fall, and then each spring, we are tested on what we learned. If we prove we know the new material, we move on to the next rung on the ladder. Once you rise a few rungs up the ladder, life becomes more accessible.

[Nikon D3S, 14-24mm, ISO 4000, ƒ/2.8, 1/250]

Almost every year is planned out for you until you graduate high school, with few options. You only need to navigate the school halls to get from one classroom to the next.

[Nikon D750, 28-300mm, ISO 12800, ƒ/5.6, 1/100]

What about the rest of your life out of school? When you stop learning, you stop living. You are only letting your mind and body start to slow down and finally quit on you.

“When did you become such a know-it?” is something we have all heard, but I am asking myself this question as much as you. If we stop learning, haven’t we declared that we know everything?

[Fuji X-E2, 18-55mm, ISO 6400, ƒ/6.4, 1/170]

Each year, maybe like now in August, pick something that you are going to learn more about. Maybe buy some books or take a class at the community college near you, but make a commitment to learn something new.

One of the best ways to learn is to travel. Go and explore, even if it is just around your own city or town. You get a lot more out of travel when you read about the places you plan to visit and study what to do in those locations.

This year I learned about the Balkans. Last year I went to Togo, West Africa, and Nicaragua to explore and learn about the people.

Whenever I pick up a book, take a class, or visit a new place, I learn something new. I also most every time, my previous knowledge is modified. You see, learning more helps us to process what we already know in a new way.

[Nikon D3, 24-120mm, ISO 6400, ƒ/5.6, 1/250]

While reading a book is learning, I suggest doing something with a group of people. The relationships you form bring a great deal of joy to the process of learning.

I love to teach photography and storytelling to groups. If you have a group of friends that wants to learn how to get better photos of your friends and family, I can teach you skills to elevate your images.

If you want to tell stories for a non-profit where you volunteer, I can help teach you how to capture the story more effectively to engage an audience.

Regardless of age, be sure you are returning to school this August.

Monday Devotional: Do you see the milk and honey or the difficulties?

[Fuji X-E2, Fuji 18-55mm, ISO 640, ƒ/5, 1/100]

It is back to the grindstone for many this Monday. Are you excited or depressed about your day? I’ll be honest with you I am struggling. This is written for me as much as to share with you today.

If you are like me, there are parts of your faith that don’t make any sense. My problems are not with the facts within my faith about if something took place or not, but how I deal with life right now.

Maybe you are like me and believe that God created you with unique skills and gifts that you believe have been part of why you are in your present vocation or feeling led into a vocation.

The idea of vocation is central to the Christian belief that God has created each person with gifts and talents oriented toward specific purposes and a way of life.

But maybe, like me, you have experienced the eroding of opportunities to use your gifts in the workplace. You may even have a job and find yourself unappreciated or feeling like you are not allowed to use your skills.

I know many photographers that if they are not outshooting with the camera in hand, they feel like they are not working. Freelancers often go for a long time between assignments and, during those times, feel discouraged.

After all, isn’t this why God created me to do good works?

For we are God’s handiwork, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.

Ephesians 2:10

Now, look at how in the past, the Jews dealt with their time in the desert when God spoke to Moses.

1-2 God spoke to Moses: “Send men to scout out the country of Canaan that I am giving to the People of Israel. Send one man from each ancestral tribe, each one a tried-and-true leader in the tribe.” 

Numbers 13

What I think is interesting is that when they returned and spoke to everyone, they all were impressed with all the good they saw, and then there was a significant pause and reflection about how impossible it would be for them to take the land.

Numbers 13
26-27 They presented themselves before Moses and Aaron and the whole congregation of the People of Israel in the Wilderness of Paran at Kadesh. They reported to the whole congregation and showed them the fruit of the land. Then they told the story of their trip:
27-29 “We went to the land to which you sent us and, oh! It does flow with milk and honey! Just look at this fruit! The only thing is that the people who live there are fierce, their cities are huge and well fortified. Worse yet, we saw descendants of the giant Anak. Amalekites are spread out in the Negev; Hittites, Jebusites, and Amorites hold the hill country; and the Canaanites are established on the Mediterranean Sea and along the Jordan.”
30 Caleb interrupted, called for silence before Moses and said, “Let’s go up and take the land—now. We can do it.”
31-33 But the others said, “We can’t attack those people; they’re way stronger than we are.” They spread scary rumors among the People of Israel. They said, “We scouted out the land from one end to the other—it’s a land that swallows people whole. Everybody we saw was huge. Why, we even saw the Nephilim giants (the Anak giants come from the Nephilim). Alongside them we felt like grasshoppers. And they looked down on us as if we were grasshoppers.”

If you read the entire story, you will find that 12 were sent out—one from each tribe. Only Caleb had the confidence that they could do it.

36-38 So it happened that the men Moses sent to scout out the land returned to circulate false rumors about the land causing the entire community to grumble against Moses—all these men died. Having spread false rumors of the land, they died in a plague, confronted by God. Only Joshua son of Nun and Caleb son of Jephunneh were left alive of the men who went to scout out the land.

After this, God wanted to wipe them out and start over; once they understood how they let down God, the people just wanted to go and take the land, but Moses stopped them. God was not with them because they were not with God. Moses told them that God wanted them to keep all the commandments God gave them. After repenting and committing to following God, were they able to take the promised land as promised?

[Nikon D5, Sigma 35mm ƒ/1.4, ISO 1250, ƒ/1.4, 1/100]

Are you experiencing a desert experience right now in your life? Do you feel like the Jews and think God had led you from the wrong place to an even worse position? Are you currently wanting to return to a place where you, like the Jews, would be like a slave to something?

God’s timing is not like our thoughts about timing. Today we might need to do our chores and complete our responsibilities.

The one thing I love the most about Jesus was he boiled things down for my simple mind. What are we to do today?

Matthew 22:34-40
The Greatest Commandment
Hearing that Jesus had silenced the Sadducees, the Pharisees got together. One of them, an expert in the law, tested him with this question: “Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?”

Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”

In the broadest sense, as stated in the Catechism of the Catholic Church, “Love is the fundamental and innate vocation of every human being.”

Where my inspiration comes from

[Nikon D5, Nikon 28-300mm ƒ/3.5-5.6, ISO 100, ƒ/5, 1/4000 – Alienbees B1600, Triggered with Pocketwizards]

When I took this photo, I was doing all I could to capture the look of musical Oklahoma! in Roswell, Georgia, at a friend’s horse farm.

I didn’t get paid at all for this photo shoot. However, I put as much effort into it as I have done for any client. I wasn’t doing this for my portfolio and wasn’t motivated to do it for the school.

I love my daughter so very much that I was doing all this for her. I wanted her to have the best experience in high school theater possible.

Oklahoma Banner

I also didn’t do this alone. Dorie, my wife, and I have been doing this all through the years for all of our kids. Dorie assisted me that day, and we got a great banner for the photo together.

I think the best motivation for any photograph centers around love. While we can show the joy of devotion through smiles, we can also show the sorrow that comes from seeing one suffer in life.

She was moving Chelle into her dorm room for the start of her first year at Columbus State University. She arrived early to participate in Camp Prowl, a freshman experience and the program’s first year.

Yesterday we took our daughter off to college, where she will major in theater with a minor in dance and get a teaching certificate. I feel like all those photos of her dance classes, orchestra performances, choral performances, and theater productions let her know we supported her love of the arts.

As one with Asperger’s Syndrome, I can tell you that Aspie’s love. We love in a different ways. I do find myself experiencing lots of emotions but will struggle more than most people on how to convey this to others. I have used photography to demonstrate to others how much I care.

Now I realize that I still need to communicate using words, but this is much more difficult for me. I continue to work on it and am so blessed to have such a wonderful wife who has helped to bring me out of my shell and taught me how to interact with others.

Without the emotion of love as my motivator, I could not produce some of my best work.

Don’t get sucked into thinking about photography as working with technology, or you will develop a GAS problem—gear Acquisition Syndrome.

Too many photographers forget that the 6 inches behind the viewfinder are more critical than the 6 inches in front. The REAL KEY is to make the camera disappear to the audience, not the photograph’s focus.

Chelle’s first Shirley Temple Drink Beaufort, North Carolina.

Your inspiration must start somewhere. I found mine to begin with my family. Today I am just reflecting on the time with my daughter since yesterday we turned the page. We are now in a new chapter of life with my daughter.

Maybe you feel frozen in your work. Perhaps you are depressed or experiencing anxiety.

At first, it’s normal to feel rattled, frozen, or unclear about what to do. After a while, you do what you can to change things for the better. But often, there’s not much you can change, sometimes nothing.

Still, there is always one thing you can do, no matter what.

You can always find someone to love.

Love feeds us as it flows out of us. Soothing, calming, centering, and strengthening.

Screeching Red-tailed Hawk was my alarm clock today

Red-tailed Hawk in our backyard on our deck. [Fuji X-E2, Fuji 55-200mm, ISO 1000, ƒ/4.8, 1/400]

I woke up this morning to screeching in our backyard. Sometimes this is the squirrels, and other times, it is the chipmunks, but today it was this Red-tailed Hawk.

Let me walk you through this photo shoot that was more about reacting to the moment than having planned to be shooting a hawk this morning.

The photo at the top was taken later when I worked on the images in Adobe Lightroom when the hawk decided to get closer to food. Our bird-feeders where squirrels and small birds hang out around our deck.

Red-tailed Hawk in our backyard is eating a squirrel. This one kept on screeching with another hawk nearby. [Nikon D5, Sigma 120-300mm ƒ/2.8 sport, Sigma TC-2001, ISO 18000, ƒ/5.6, 1/4000]

I first grabbed the closest camera and shot photos of the Red-tailed Hawk in the tree in our backyard eating a squirrel it had just caught. This was the Fuji X-E2. However, I quickly got my best camera to get this up close.

Sigma 120-300mm ƒ/2.8 Sport

I grabbed the Nikon D5 and put my Sigma 120-300mm ƒ/2.8 | S with a TC-2001 [2x converter], which gave me a 600mm ƒ/5.6 lens.

ExpoDisc EXPOD2-77 2.0 Professional White Balance Filter 77 mm, 82mm (Black)

By the way, before I put the telephoto on the camera, I put a 35mm lens and then did a custom white balance using my ExpoDisc. This helped me get the most accurate color under all the leaves and trees in our backyard.

I then quickly put this in my sports settings. I did this because I just needed to pick my custom settings where I had programmed my camera for sports. Here is a blog post to walk you through it.

After shooting many photos, I realized the hawk was staying until it was finished with the meal. This gave me time to go and find a tripod because I was hand holding the camera and lens up to this point.

[Nikon D5, Sigma 120-300mm ƒ/2.8 sport, Sigma TC-2001, ISO 900, ƒ/5.6, 1/200]

Then I went to the Nikon shooting menu and picked regular. This let me shoot at ISO 900 versus ISO 18000. I lowered the shutter speed from 1/4000 to 1/200.

I continued to shoot photos looking for moments where I felt like I was capturing the hawk as I wanted to portray it to you.

Red-tailed Hawk in our backyard on our deck. [Fuji X-E2, Fuji 55-200mm, ISO 1000, ƒ/4.8, 1/400]

When it was sitting on the railing on our deck, I watched as I thought it was looking for a squirrel hiding under our gas grill.

Since I had put away the Nikon D5 and the Sigma 120-300mm ƒ/2.8 | S, I grabbed the Fuji X-E2 with the 55-200mm attached and got just a few more shots before it flew away.

Most photographers are introverts and introverts need community

[Nikon D5, Sigma 35mm ƒ/1.4, ISO 100, ƒ/1.4, 1/1000] photo by: Robin Rayne Nelson

I have taken many personality tests, all of which have me somewhere on the introvert scale. Now some have me as a borderline extrovert but never a strong socialite.

On the Myers-Briggs test, I am an INFP.

INFP personalities are true idealists, always looking for the hint of good in even the worst of people and events, searching for ways to improve things. While they may be perceived as calm, reserved, or even shy, INFPs have an inner flame and passion that can truly shine. Comprising just 4% of the population, the risk of feeling misunderstood is unfortunately high for the INFP personality type – but when they find like-minded people to spend their time with, the harmony they feel will be a fountain of joy and inspiration.

I have found that while not all of my photojournalist friends are INFPs, many are introverts.

Being a freelancer and an introvert combination can make life incredibly lonely. Friends and family support me, but having someone who can fully relate is invaluable.

My Involvement with Groups

For most of my life, I have been organizing small groups. While in high school, I loved to play chess, so I formed a club that met at my house.

Later I worked on the staff of the Southern Short Course, the oldest photojournalism conference in the country, based in North Carolina.

I also hung out with fellow photojournalists in my first job at the Hickory Daily Record.

When I went to work with Don Rutledge in Richmond, VA, with The Commission Magazine, we had people from all over the world coming in regularly to meet Don Rutledge and Joanna Pinneo. We often went to lunch and talked shop. This was one of the most rewarding times of my life where I met with people in the same career as myself each week and my passion for our work.

Left to Right: Jim Veneman, Bob Carey, Morris Abernathy, Louis Deluca, Ron London, & [Me] Stanley Leary

When I went to seminary, we started the Southwestern Photojournalism Conference, which has run for 25 years. Also, during my time in Fort Worth, TX, I was part of the Christians in Photojournalism group that met in the metro area.

I would later start a CIP group in Atlanta and then help transition this group to become FOCUS.

Yet all of these formal groups aren’t enough. I continued to join affinity groups because I spend so much of my day alone.

Start with just one person

Robin Rayne Nelson was the guest speaker at the Cherokee Camera Club in Canton, GA. Robin shared her passion for special needs and the LGBT community. [Fuji X-E2, 18-55mm, ISO 6400, ƒ/4, 1/25]

I can tell you that I could not have survived without my close friends in the industry. Robin Nelson and I get together for coffee and discuss our story ideas.

Bill Bangham, Eugene Richards and Stanley Leary at the SWPJC. [Nikon Coolpix P7000, ISO 1600, ƒ2.8, 1/60]

Another close friend is Bill Bangham. We pick up from where we left off whenever we get together. So often, these conversations today are on the phone since we live in different towns.

Ken Touchton and myself on a job.

Another good friend is Ken Touchton. Ken has given me some of the best business advice I have ever had throughout my career. Ken also challenges me all the time. When I first left a staff job and went freelance, Ken called me weekly to ask what I was doing and my plans. Then the following week, he called to hold me accountable.

During one of our times together, Vivian and Gary Chapman, and Ken Touchton ate at a restaurant in Roswell, GA.

Another wonderful couple is Vivian and Gary Chapman. They have been good friends through the years. I often call Gary for advice and love how transparent Gary is about his work.

My mentor, coach, and friend Don Rutledge. Photo by Ken Touchton

The one person who taught me to have an open door policy was Don Rutledge. He was available to meet with anyone if he had the time or would make time.

Don would take me to lunch with some of the most famous and not-so-famous photographers. Every person was treated equally. Don listened and asked questions. Don also loved to tell stories about himself where he screwed up. He taught me how to laugh at myself.

I hope to communicate today through this blog that a successful photographer must be in the community. Not just to participate in some meetings planned by others, but to go out of your way to plan those events for others as well.

I highly recommend joining a Facebook online group and not just troll the posts but contribute. Post photos, ask questions, and contribute by commenting on other photographers’ posts. Create community.

Here are a few Facebook groups you might be interested in joining. Be sure you are a good fit. Don’t just try and enter every group. Join those where you genuinely are amongst your people. If you are not a photojournalist, then don’t join that group. Maybe join the Nikon or Canon group.

FOCUS – Fellowship of Communicators Uniting Socially 

Christians In Photojournalism (CIP)

Photojournalism

Christian Photographers

Sony Alphas

Nikon D5

There are many other groups to join on Facebook. The cool thing is many of these groups organize events locally for you to participate. Besides joining a group, take the time to develop those closer relationships where you go to coffee or lunch with just one person.

If you are going to see what you can get out of something, you will not get very much at all out of anything. However, if you go not just to get something but rather to give, you have a better chance of benefiting. When someone tells you of their projects, follow up and ask how their project is going. Ask to see it and offer constructive criticism if they are open to it.

Knolan Benfield is in Hawaii with me, helping teach posing to photography students with Youth With a Mission. (Photo by: Dennis Fahringer)

By the way, the person who got me started in photography was my uncle Knolan Benfield. He worked with Don Rutledge as well, and the two of them taught me so much and made it possible for me to be where I am today.

The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in the service of others.

– Mahatma Gandhi

No more fumbling through the camera bag for a lens

LenzBuddy

Working with photo assistants taught me that you must communicate clearly with them. Every photographer has a different system for doing things.

If you work with the same assistant all the time, you are at an advantage over those of us who need to hire different assistants from time to time. I am not so busy that I have a full-time photo assistant.

One of the things I did was label the lenses in my camera bags. I had been researching different labeling systems for camera lenses and tried out LenzBuddy. They make a variety of front lens caps, rear lens caps, and camera body caps.

I decided to put all the lenses into my ThinkTank Airport Security Roller Bag with the lens rear caps facing up.

I then ordered all the “Focal Length Only Custom Lens Cap – Rear,” which cost $9.95 each. The official Nikon rear lens caps cost $14.82 on Amazon.

You can put your Logo or other custom design on and off their caps.

This week, when I had my daughter as the photo assistant, this helped a great deal. “Can you get me the 35mm?” was no longer a slow process for her to pull each lens out of the bag to find the one lens I needed.

Maybe you have been digging through your bag of lenses labeled with a Sharpie on masking tape (or not at all) and realize how much this could help. I think that whenever you can present yourself in front of the client as one who thinks of all the small details, they will trust you even more with their details.

Simple one light setup to balance existing light

[Nikon D5, Sigma 35mm ƒ/1.4, ISO 400, ƒ/1.4, 1/125–Alienbees B1600, Translucent Umbrella, Pocketwizard remotes]

My daughter helped me today with a photo shoot. Here she stood in for a test shot where I needed a key/leading light due to the overhead skylight creating unpleasant light on her face.

Setup

Once I had my setup, I dialed the Pocketwizard AC-3 power up and down to balance the light in the room. I made it about a stop brighter to be sure it was the leading light on her face.

Next, I moved closer and tried a few angles with the Sigma 35mm ƒ/1.4.

After exploring my options later, I took my second Nikon D5, put the Nikon 85mm ƒ/1.8G lens on it, and did a few more shots for angles. Now it is on a second body because it would be much faster to change cameras than lenses.

[Nikon D5, Nikon 85mm ƒ/1.8, ISO 200, ƒ/1.8, 1/60–Alienbees B1600, Translucent Umbrella, Pocketwizard remotes]

Again I then tried a few different angles and compositions.

My gear for this photo shoot:

Nikon D5

Nikon 85mm ƒ/1.8

Sigma 35mm ƒ/1.4

Alienbees B1600

Pocketwizard TT5 & TT1 kit

Pocketwizard AC-9

Pocketwizard AC-3

Manfrotto 5001B 74-Inch Nano Stand

Westcott 2001 43-Inch Optical White Satin Collapsible Umbrella

Drew Gibson Country-Blues Song-Writer

Drew Gibson plays at The Crimson Moon in Dahlonega, GA with Dave Hadley playing the steel guitar. [Fuji X-E2, 18-55mm, ISO 6400, ƒ/4, 1/45]

Last night we drove up to Dahlonega, GA, to see one of my wife’s friends from college in Richmond, VA play at The Crimson Moon.

Drew Gibson plays a country-blues style of music. He writes all of his music.

[Fuji X-E2, 55-200mm, ISO 5000, ƒ/3.8, 1/100]

His latest album is 1532, about his late father and his family. I believe when artists start to deal with those raw emotions that they experience in things like the loss of a loved one, they can unleash their feelings.

[Fuji X-E2, 18-55mm, ISO 6400, ƒ/4, 1/70]

Musicians often create a vibe with their music that draws others in since this often resonates with their audience’s emotions.

While listening, I felt like the photos I took from my seat didn’t capture all the emotions I wanted. I saw this in front of The Crimson Moon and Drew and Dave playing through the window.

[Fuji X-E2, 18-55mm, ISO 6400, ƒ/4, 1/90]

Shooting through the window created this barrier between the musicians and me. The reflections in the window were from outside the coffee shop.

Often this is how I think we listen to music. We hear the artist’s theme, and at the same time, we are reflecting on our own lives. The experience of the event creates this hybrid of our worlds colliding.

[Fuji X-E2, 18-55mm, ISO 6400, ƒ/4, 1/25]

When I returned to the restaurant, I wanted to capture the guests all relaxed and listening. I tried to pick up on the mood of the place itself.

I took a few photos from different parts of the room to give more context to the small venue in Dahlonega.

[Fuji X-E2, 18-55mm, ISO 6400, ƒ/4, 1/80]

Too often people get tunnel vision and continue to shoot from the same spot with the same lens. It may be a great composition and the best angle, but it isn’t the only angle.

Move around and find those different perspectives.

[Fuji X-E2, 18-55mm, ISO 400, ƒ/3.6, 1/500]

If you want to experience a similar concert as I did, go to The Crimson Moon website for a list of shows.

You can find out more about Drew Gibson on his website as well.

This is a song about Drew’s Mother, Betty Jane, from the album.

Here is another song by Drew, “When the Vinyl Scrapes.”

You can’t handle the truth

A small outreach group has started in the bush village of Sabtenga. The oldest man in a hat was Musanai Zemnai, the Chief of the Young People, who welcomed the group. [Nikon D2X, Sigma 18-50mm ƒ/2.8, ISO 400, ƒ/2.8, 1/350]

I grew up singing in Baptist churches “Blessed Assurance.” The refrain went like this:

This is my story, this is my song,
praising my Savior all the day long;
this is my story, this is my song,
praising my Savior all the day long.

The words of this song are vital to the photojournalist’s ethics. We are not there to tell our story but rather the subject’s story. As long as the issue is honest with the journalist, they must reciprocate.

[Nikon D2X, Sigma 15-30mm ƒ/3.5-4.5, ISO 400, ƒ/4, 1/160]

When I was visiting the Chief among the young people of the bush village in Sabtenga, I took many different photos of him.

[Nikon D2X, Sigma 18-50mm ƒ/2.8, ISO 100, ƒ/2.8, 1/500]

While I ended up with a variety of photos that I could use, it was imperative that I pick those photos that helped tell his story.

[Nikon D2X, Sigma 18-50mm ƒ/2.8, ISO 400, ƒ/4, 1/640]

Often the photojournalist is limited to just one photo, so which one is the one photo?

[Nikon D2X, Sigma 18-50mm ƒ/2.8, ISO 400, ƒ/2.8, 1/400]

How a journalist arrives at the photo is one that determines the storyline. Often the journalist will pull together a narrative using the images in a specific sequence to tell the subject’s story.

Look at these different photos and pick which image you think is the best for the story.

[Nikon D2X, Sigma 70-200mm ƒ/2.8, ISO 400, ƒ/2.8, 1/180]
[Nikon D2X, Sigma 70-200mm ƒ/2.8, ISO 400, ƒ/2.8, 1/180]
[Nikon D2X, Sigma 70-200mm ƒ/2.8, ISO 400, ƒ/2.8, 1/180]

I hope you took your time and looked at each one closely. Most of those who may read this will have picked a photo.

If you picked a photo and would run this photo, you have now just violated the ethics of photojournalism.

The question you should have been asking is what is the story and which photo does the best job of telling the story. Since you didn’t know the story then you must say I cannot choose without knowing the storyline.

What is the code of ethics? Here is the National Press Photographers Association code of ethics.

Code of Ethics

Visual journalists and those who manage visual news productions are accountable for upholding the following standards in their daily work:

  1. Be accurate and comprehensive in the representation of subjects.
  2. Resist being manipulated by staged photo opportunities.
  3. Be complete and provide context when photographing or recording issues. Avoid stereotyping individuals and groups. Recognize and work to avoid presenting one’s own biases in work.
  4. Treat all topics with respect and dignity. Give special consideration to vulnerable issues and compassion to victims of crime or tragedy. Intrude on private moments of grief only when the public has an overriding and justifiable need to see.
  5. While photographing subjects, do not intentionally contribute to, alter, or seek to alter or influence events.
  6. Editing should maintain the integrity of the photographic images’ content and context. Do not manipulate images or add or change the sound in any way that can mislead viewers or misrepresent subjects.
  7. Do not pay sources or issues or reward them materially for information or participation.
  8. Do not accept gifts, favors, or compensation from those who might seek to influence coverage.
  9. Do not intentionally sabotage the efforts of other journalists.

Ideally, visual journalists should:

  1. Strive to ensure that the public’s business is conducted in public. Defend the rights of access for all journalists.
  2. As a psychology, sociology, politics, and art student, I think proactively to develop a unique vision and presentation. Work with a voracious appetite for current events and contemporary visual media.
  3. Strive for total and unrestricted access to subjects, recommend alternatives to shallow or rushed opportunities, seek a diversity of viewpoints, and work to show unpopular or unnoticed points of view.
  4. Avoid political, civic, and business involvements or other employment that compromise or give the appearance of compromising one’s journalistic independence.
  5. Strive to be unobtrusive and humble in dealing with subjects.
  6. Respect the integrity of the photographic moment.
  7. Strive by example and influence to maintain this code’s spirit and high standards. When confronted with situations in which the proper action is not explicit, seek the counsel of those who exhibits the profession’s highest standards. Visual journalists should continuously study their craft and the ethics that guide it.

But we are not journalists!!!!

We have to protect our __________

You may have inserted into that blank your organization or even the subject. You feel like you know how best to help people by not telling the complete story. The audience will not understand.

Just remember that you put yourself on a very high horse just like in the movie

Could “we the people” handle a bit more of the truth? One would certainly like to think so.

When you get in the way of “truth,” you have changed the narrative. You have robbed the subject of “their story” and replaced it with “your story” or “your organization’s story.”

Maya Angelou said, “There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.”

When it is finally shared, do you want to be the one person that altered the story in any way that could diminish its power?

Faith is Distinct from Human Belief

Fuji X-E2, 18-55mm, ISO 6400, ƒ/4, 1/18

Yesterday I was studying Hebrews 11. As I was reading all the examples of those who had great faith, it struck me that they did not have the scripture as Jews, Christians, or Muslims have today.

Now faith is confidence in what we hope for and assurance about what we do not see. This is what the ancients were commended for. 

Hebrews 11

The chapter continues using the examples of Abel, Enoch, Noah, Abraham, Isaac, Jacob, and Sarah.

All these people were still living by faith when they died. They did not receive the things promised; they only saw them and welcomed them from a distance, admitting they were foreigners and strangers on earth.

They had an extraordinary relationship with God. They knew God and God knew them. They seemed to walk together through life.

What is interesting to me is the phrase “By Faith” used to introduce each of them. This is quite different than saying “By Confidence.”

Faith is always a gift from God and never something people can produce. In short, “faith” for the believer is “God’s divine persuasion” – and therefore distinct from human belief (confidence), yet involving it. The Lord continuously births faith in the yielded believer so they can know what He prefers, i.e., the persuasion of His will.

Throughout scripture, faith is always received from God and never generated by us. In many ways, this is what Christians would believe is the Holy Spirit working through us. It is also what many would say is how God works on the hearts and minds of those who are not believers.

Understanding that God gives Faith makes it much easier to read this scripture and understand it was only with God’s intervention that Abraham could have offered his son in sacrifice.

When God tested him, Abraham offered Isaac as a sacrifice by faith. He who had embraced the promises was about to sacrifice his one and only son, even though God had said to him, “It is through Isaac that your offspring will be reckoned.” Abraham reasoned that God could even raise the dead, and so in a manner of speaking, he received Isaac back from death.

The more I read and study the concept of faith, the more I see that it is something that comes from a relationship with God.

“For by grace you have been saved through faith; and that not of yourselves, it is the gift of God; not as a result of works, so that no one may boast”

Ephesians 2:8-9:

To run my business by faith would require me to be called by God to be in this business. It requires me to yield to his will and to take time each day to be in a relationship with God. Without the connection, there can be no faith. I must allow God to speak to me and be willing to listen.

Are you living by faith if you feel called to the profession you are doing today? I cannot tell you the five steps to living by faith because faith is given by God and not something we can produce.

We can carve out time today to be with God. We can read the scripture and live by his commandments. We can seek to know his will.

This, to me, is why I love Jesus so much. This one scripture keeps it simple for me.

36 “Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law?”
37 Jesus replied: “‘Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind.’ 38 This is the first and greatest commandment. 39 And the second is like it: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ 40 All the Law and the Prophets hang on these two commandments.”

Matthew 22:36-40