My resources for living with Aspergers

Great book for those wanting to learn more about Aspergers.

This past week I have talked with a few people about Aspergers. I have been transparent through the years about my Aspergers. I have found that this has helped others understand me better and made my interactions with people more productive.

Whenever I speak at workshops, I like to tell my story, and I am surprised that almost every time I do, someone comes up saying they have it or have a family member with Aspergers.

I have been asked to talk to family members and help them understand Aspergers a little better.

These are just some of the books I have on Aspergers, and I recommend that anyone wanting to learn more get some of these books.

Asperger syndrome is an autism spectrum disorder with generally higher functioning. People with this condition may be socially awkward and have an all-absorbing interest in specific topics. Communication training and behavioral therapy can help people with the syndrome learn to socialize more successfully.

I believe that Teddy Roosevelt’s quote is critical for those with Aspergers to understand as key to their success in living with Aspergers.

“People won’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.”

The turning point for me to start what I call the path to improved social skills was when I realized I wanted relationships with people and was able to acknowledge it wasn’t so much the other person’s responsibility to understand me as it was for me to understand them.

I believe that most people with Aspergers have a subject interest that, when overlapped with people, can be the place where social skills are best developed.

For me, that subject was photography. To get better, I sought out experts. I just happened to stumble upon a topic and mentors that would help me more than I would ever realize with Aspergers.

My mentor Don Rutledge and my uncle Knolan Benfield told me how to improve my photos of people and required me to understand body language. Lucky for me, I majored in Social Work, which was my first real introduction to learning how to read people.

In Social Work, I had to be trained in interview skills. We were videotaped and analyzed ourselves with the help of teachers and classmates as to if we were not just listening with our ears but our eyes.

I do not remember all the videos I saw on the topic while in college, but it was a good number. Then many of my professors would also demonstrate and help us learn to pay attention to the nuances.

Later, after I had graduated from college and worked with Don Rutledge, it was his instruction that really helped me take this to a different level.

We were shooting a film when I worked with Don. He would take my contact sheets and his to go frame by frame to explore body language and help me to see how to find the moments that had the most emotion and impact. Little did I know I was being taught what was my most considerable struggle up to this time. I had struggled with reading situations and knowing that people were sending me visual cues in our interactions.

I do not know many subjects that will let you get to the core issues of what a person with Aspergers struggles with more than one that requires you to recognize body language and predict it rather than photojournalism.

If you have Aspergers or your friend and family member do and want to learn more, here are some books I have read that helped me know more. Each one comes from a different perspective. Some are not about Aspergers but about reading people and body language. Those books will help you as well.

I love a few TV Shows where the main characters, in my opinion, exhibit Aspergers. The Big Bang Theory with the character Sheldon is a great show to watch a person struggling with relationships.

I just came across a Netflix show from the BBC Doc Martin that the main character has inferior social skills.

This is an excellent movie about Aspergers. By the way, all these links are to Amazon, and I get a small percentage of the sale, but the costs are no different for you.

Here are the books I recommend.

With all these resources, I still struggle. While I care for others, I am not always moved to empathy as quickly as I should. Often my heart is too mechanical in the way it plays out.

My biggest supporter is my wife, Dorie, who had helped me grow beyond where I was when we first met. I have many friends today who know that I am caring after getting to know me.

My greatest wish is to be a compassionate person who constantly seeks ways to serve people.

How about you? Do you want to know what you know or how much you care?

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Knowing your subject doesn’t produce a great story, it is …

[Fuji X-E2, 18-55mm, ISO 6400, ƒ/4, 1/25]

This young boy and his friends were hanging out on a bumper car ride in the Balkans. The boy is looking at me through a reflection of mirrors in the passage. There is a curiosity in his eyes about who is this American with a camera.

[Fuji X-E2, 18-55mm, ISO 6400, ƒ/3.2, 1/40]

His look and the fact I didn’t have the time to get to know him reminded me that listening to others takes a lot of things.

We had just finished showing our projects to the Storytellers Abroad Multimedia Workshop on Friday night, and we all took a break and walked downtown.

[Fuji X-E2, 18-55mm, ISO 3200, ƒ/4, 1/100]

Saturday, we put the finishing touches on the stories to show that evening to all the Global Workers and subjects of the stories during our Storytellers Abroad Multimedia Workshop.

Here is Pat Davison working with Hannah Dunlap, a student at Cedarville University. Beside them is Meghan Duncan, who just graduated High School working with James Dockery on putting those finishing touches on their stories to show Saturday night.

[Fuji X-E2, 18-55mm, ISO 3200, ƒ/2.8, 1/100]

Pat and Hannah are celebrating because they just started exporting the finished project. Meghan and James are getting close, and I was working with Juliana Spicer, a Liberty University student, on fixing a corrupt sequence in her Adobe Premier Pro project. We got it fixed, and she showed her show as well.

[Fuji X-E2, 18-55mm, ISO 5000, ƒ/3.6, 1/100]

This is Korinna Duke, a Cedarville University grad with her subject. Korinna told me later that she was watching him while showing the story she did for his reaction. When he gasped at part of the story, she was distraught. She wanted to tell his story as accurately as she could.

Did I offend him? Was her question? In the end, he not only loved the multimedia package, he asked to get a copy to show all his friends and family.

[Fuji X-E2, 18-55mm, ISO 400, ƒ/5, 1/125]

This week has taught me a lot about “Getting it Right.” We were in the Balkans telling stories of people whom we didn’t speak their native language and whose English lacked some of the polish necessary to get to the heart of the story.

Most of the students read what the global workers had said about the person they were doing a story on and did little on that first interview to peel beyond what was written on the page. They had taken the story at face value.

Some of the subjects had been persecuted based on ethnicity before the Balkan wars for many years, but after the war, that hasn’t disappeared. During the war, they had guns pointed at their heads instead of insults and lost their jobs just for being ethnically different. They watched as the soldiers executed their parents in front of them by cutting off their heads.

The main reason we were there was due to one global worker who, during the Balkans war, went to Europe from the United States to help refugees in a camp. The war was over much sooner than expected, and she was asked to work with all the children that were either orphans or had lost their fathers.

She created a school to love these kids and help them during their rebuilding of the country.

Many of the subjects were very guarded about telling their stories. It required the workshop’s students to build trust and listen with more than just their ears. They had to attend with their eyes. They had to be more observant than in their everyday life.

Teddy Roosevelt said, “People won’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.” This is the core skill necessary for the storyteller. Their subjects don’t care how much you know about them; they want to know how much you care about them before they allow you into their lives.

This week each instructor would ask questions of the students about their subjects. The common question was, “did you ask the subject?”

The key to getting the story right and having the information necessary to produce a compelling story relies solely on the storyteller’s curiosity and character. Do they care more about the person than the story? If you do, then the subject will let you into their lives. Only when the subject opens the door to their heart can the storyteller take the rest of the world with them on that journey.

Wrapping up editing today for tonight’s show for the students

Korinna Duke interviews the founder of a Leadership Academy in the Balkans. [Fuji X-E2, 18-55mm, ISO 200, ƒ/9, 1/280]

Today is our time. We will show everyone in the class each of the student projects. The students have enjoyed hearing the stories of Global Workers taking the time to develop relationships with the people of the Balkans to improve their lives.

It has been about 17 years since the war ended, and they haven’t fully recovered.

[Fuji X-E2, 18-55mm, ISO 500, ƒ/4, 1/100]

So many of the youth lost families during this time. They are looking to the future and starting their families.

[Fuji X-E2, 18-55mm, ISO 400, ƒ/4, 1/100]

Today, each student is working on their computers, putting all the interviews, videos, and stills, and picking music to help tell the story of the subject they have been working with since this past Sunday.

[Fuji X-E2, 18-55mm, ISO 5000, ƒ/5, 1/100]

Today, the other teachers, Pat Davison, James Dockery, Jeff Raymond, and I, will go to each of the twelve students to review their stories and offer advice on improving their edits.

The biggest thing we have been doing in the first edit is getting their stories short. Now we are polishing the videos.

Come back sometime in the next couple of weeks to see some of the finished multimedia packages.

Hump Day for Storytellers Abroad Multimedia Workshop in the Balkans

This is one of the largest Mosques in the Balkans, where we lead our Storytellers Abroad Multimedia Workshop. [Fuji X-E2, 18-55mm, ISO 200, ƒ/4, 1/15]

Today is hump day and is also our midway point for our Storytellers Abroad Multimedia Workshop we are doing for 12 students in the Balkans.

James Dockery is introducing Adobe Premier Pro to the students. [Fuji X-E2, 18-55mm, ISO 2500, ƒ/5, 1/100]

Last night we introduced the software Adobe Premier Pro to the students. We had them install a workspace and shortcut keys into the software that James Dockery designed for our workshop.

[Fuji X-E2, 55-200mm, ISO 6400, ƒ/4.5, 1/90]

James explains that while they can set up their workspace and create their shortcuts, for the teaching team to sit down with them and help with editing, we need to have a shared workspace to see what we are looking for as instructors.

Fuji X-E2, 18-55mm, ISO 800, ƒ/5, 1/100]

We have a schedule we are working from, and each student has a workbook that fits into a pocket with the deadlines they are working to meet each day.

We have a chart of their deadlines up on a wall so we can see where each student is in the process.

Today each student is to have finished putting their interviews into the timeline of Adobe Premier Pro and let one of the instructors listen to their audio story. Then they and the instructor can see all the scenes they need to have B-roll to use as the visuals to complement the audio.

Stanley and James are enjoying some Macchiatos. [Fuji X-E2, 18-55mm, ISO 400, ƒ/2.8, 1/100]

To be productive, we have to all be awake, so James and I have been drinking those Macchiatos to keep awake and alert.

[Fuji X-E2, 18-55mm, ISO 400, ƒ/3.6, 1/100]

Tonight we will export all the projects, look at them in the morning, and assess what is missing and needs to be shot to help us make all the projects compelling stories.

Full Disclosure is required and seldom done with photography

When I talk about a product and have been given any compensation, I must inform you about that relationship. This is called full disclosure. It is best that I start the conversation with you upfront, not at the message’s end.

Sadly, many photographers whom camera manufacturers or software companies compensate for are not fully disclosing their relationship with their audience. Therefore too many customers do not recognize them as the hawkers, peddlers, or costermongers for these brands. Because they are biased, you need to know.

When a photographer talks about switching from camera brand A to camera brand B, I think you need to know if they were compensated.

I would go so far as to say that some photographers, if not for their endorsement deals, would not be a working pros. They are pretty much full-time spokespersons for the brand. Many of them are great photographers, but I would still be great no matter their brand.

Zack Arias, who reveals his relationship with vendors, stopped speaking as much as he was because he realized he wanted his examples to be what he was doing on jobs other than the sponsor. He told me he learned when he first started speaking that he would pull up an example and say last week when I did this shoot was getting replaced by a couple of years ago when I did this for a client.

I have always loved Zack for his honesty and his passion for creativity.

MOVIES

One of the most prominent places you see advertising is movie product placement.

According to a Priceonomics analysis, products placed into storylines can be much more successful for brands than traditional advertisements, like TV ads. It’s easier to sell a viewer the value of a product if they’re emotionally invested in the storyline in which it’s presented, rather than a viewer who’s watching an ad totally out of context. Plus, it’s far too easy to skip ads and zone out during ads nowadays.

When a brand picks up a photographer with a great eye and is highly creative, it is the same as product placement in a movie. E. T. could have used M&M’s instead of Reese’s Pieces, and the storyline wouldn’t have been significantly impacted, but the product used benefitted from a 65% jump in sales due to the movie placement. Is one candy better than the other?

My disclosures

I am an Amazon Affiliate and a Cradoc foto software Affiliate. I get a small percentage of sales for Amazon links and a little more if you buy Cradoc foot quote, fotoBiz, or their keyword software.

Every time I start a blog post about a product, I am doing my best to disclose my connection up front and not at the end. I would love for every blog to start with disclosure because I am earning more than I do now from writing this blog.

Now I wish I were a Nikon Ambassador, but I am not. If I were and I was at a conference speaking, I would want to be sure when I am introduced that this is said that I am a Nikon Ambassador. This way, you know that it is in my best interest for people to go out and buy Nikon gear after I speak. The reason is simple then Nikon will continue this relationship. If sales do not materialize from my work for Nikon, they will terminate that relationship and find someone who does help sell their gear.

Dave Black, a Nikon Ambassador, puts his relationship on the main page of his website http://www.daveblackphotography.com/.

TIP for you!

If you are a fan boy or fan girl of specific photographers and listen to them for what gear and software they recommend, take the time and find out if they are compensated in any way at all by those products.

You need to know when a photographer is talking about stuff you can purchase, which can be gear, software, or services if that brand compensates them.

There are a few photographers who get compensation like free gear or discounts for them and then will write in a blog post quite misleading comments that say these are their own words and the company didn’t pay them to write that review.

The word BUT negates or cancels everything that goes before it. Therefore, they are misleading when a sponsored photographer says; I wasn’t paid directly for these comments. They are making the water murky.

If a photographer isn’t giving you full disclosure, can you trust their comments?

For the most part, the six inches behind the eye determine the greatness of the photo more than the six inches in front of the eye.

When do you have to make the disclosure?

The FTC guidelines for endorsements and testimonials in advertising say if there is a connection between the endorser and the seller of the product or service, full disclosure is required.

Penalties for noncompliance can range from a written warning and request to provide full disclosure to the maximum of an $11,000 civil fine (per incident).

When and when not to add light to existing light

Chelle enjoys the rainbow after all the rain the past couple days at Ocean Isle Beach, NC. [Nikon D5, Nikon 14-24mm ƒ/2.8, ISO 8000, ƒ/22, 1/100]

Sometimes, you must compose a photo in photography because God has taken care of the light for you. Here is an excellent example of my daughter at the beach last week. At the end of a full day of rain, we had a gorgeous rainbow pop up at sunset.

I quickly realized that my 24mm wasn’t getting the entire rainbow, so I reached into the camera bag and pulled out the Nikon 14-24mm ƒ/2.8 lens. With a 114º view, it was able to get the rainbow.

Next, I ran to the beach and started to take photos of just the rainbow.

Rainbow after the rain at Ocean Isle Beach, NC

While shooting this, my daughter walked into the frame. I quickly realized I needed her to come closer to the camera and put the rainbow behind her.

Chelle starting to walk towards me.

It was sprinkling so that you could see raindrops on my lens. But I was thrilled with this once-in-a-lifetime opportunity.

I often have to use artificial light with the existing light to make the photo work.

Here is what I often do with photos where I must improve the conditions.

Leary family Family Photo at Ocean Isle Beach, NC. [Nikon D5, Sigma 24-105mm, ISO 100, ƒ/8, 1/250 – (2) Alienbees B1600s triggered with Pocketwizard TT5 & TT1]

Our family tradition at a family reunion is getting a photo of the family. I have been doing this photo for 30+ years.

Dorie took photos of me setting up the family photo on her phone. – photo by Dorie Griggs

Since it had been raining most of the day, we still had some cloud cover. Using the flashes, I could help get a better color since the flashes are daylight balanced, and the overcast sky would have dulled the colors.

A second benefit of using the flash is avoiding those raccoon eyes where the sun from above can create shadows around the eyes.

Joshua’s senior photo at Ocean Isle Beach, NC. [Nikon D5, Nikon 85mm ƒ/1.8G, ISO 100, ƒ/1.8, 1/6400 – Alienbees 1600 using the Pocketwizard TT5 & TT1]

While I had everything with me, I also took some photos of my nephew for his senior pictures. For these photos, I used my Nikon 85mm ƒ/1.8G so I could shoot wide open, get the really soft background, and make him pop out more.

Tips

  1. Use fill flash for exterior photos.
    1. At the beach, you might think you don’t need it, but it can improve the color and eliminate the raccoon eyes.
    2. Put the flash off the camera at 45º
  2. For group photos, shoot at ƒ/5.6 or ƒ/8 to be sure everyone is in focus.
  3. For individuals using a telephoto lens like my 85mm ƒ/1.8. Shoot wide open to get that silky out-of-focus background.
  4. Use a tripod for groups
    1. It helps keep the horizon straight
    2. If one person blinks, you can clone them from another frame. Sometimes you cannot get the best expressions of everyone in one frame, and having everything shot on a tripod makes it easier to cut and paste.
    3. If needed, you can use a slower shutter speed. However, be careful that people are still if you do.
Leary family Family Photo at Ocean Isle Beach, NC

Here is one of my favorites from the photoshoot of our family.

When Preparation Meets Opportunity

Chelle enjoys the rainbow after all the rain the past couple days at Ocean Isle Beach, NC. [Nikon D5, 14-24mm, ISO 8000, ƒ/22, 1/100]

“Luck Is What Happens When Preparation Meets Opportunity”

– Roman philosopher Seneca

There are times for photographers when you happen to be in the right place at the right time. Last night was one of those times for me. It had been raining all day, and we washed our day at the beach.

I will put my rainbow in the clouds to be a sign of my promise to the earth.

Genesis 9:13

Now to get this photo, you cannot use your smartphone. It would help if you had a super wide-angle lens. For this photo, I used my Nikon 14-24mm ƒ/2.8 lens to be able to capture the complete rainbow. The lens captures 114º of view, enough to capture the whole rainbow for my photo.

After shooting some shots up at the house we are renting, I realized that if I go to the beach, I can eliminate all the foreground that wasn’t as pleasing.

Rainbow at Ocean Isle Beach, NC

By going to the beach, I could clean up the foreground. Now I started to want something else in the photo other than just the rainbow.

Rainbow with seagulls at Ocean Isle Beach, NC

So I waited as birds flew into the frame and shot a few of them. But then my daughter wanting to get closer to see what I was seeing, walked into the frame. I asked her to walk to me, and the top photo was one of the best frames.

Because your back will be towards the sun when photographing a rainbow, the light at the end of the day was on my daughter’s face, so there was no need to improve the already wonderful light.

This is an excellent example of taking your camera gear and not just relying on your smartphone.

Travel Photography: These are a few of my favorite things

Ocean Isle Beach, NC [Nikon D5, 28-300mm, ISO 100, ƒ/5.3, 1/640]

Travel photography often catches those elements that create a desire for the place. Often people put photos and paintings of these places in their homes and offices as a way for them to escape for a moment by just soaking in the image.

The pier at Ocean Isle Beach, NC [Nikon D5, Sigma 24-105mm, ISO 100, ƒ/8, 1/500]

The key to capturing these moments of solitude is they have first to impact you. It would help if you first were moved and relaxed. Then from this experience, you frame the situation to help capture that feeling which brings peace into your life.

Seagull at Ocean Isle Beach, NC [Nikon D5, 28-300mm, ISO 360, ƒ/5.6, 1/4000]

For me, a bird in flight captures total freedom and the ability to soar. I often think about how the dove was used to symbolize the Holy Spirit in the Bible.

When all the people were being baptized, Jesus was baptized too. And as he was praying, heaven was opened and the Holy Spirit descended on him in bodily form like a dove. And a voice came from heaven: “You are my Son, whom I love; with you I am well pleased.”

Luke 3:21-22

You often see artists who will put scripture with their work. It is how they are often moved not just to a peaceful moment but one that has a deeper meaning for them. It was a spiritual moment.

Rainy day at Ocean Isle Beach, NC [Nikon D5, Sigma 24-105mm, ISO 900, ƒ/22, 1/100]

Raindrops on windows remind me of the musical Sound of Music.

Raindrops on roses and whiskers on kittens
Bright copper kettles and warm woollen mittens
Brown paper packages tied up with strings
These are a few of my favorite things.

Travel photography is capturing “My Favorite Things” that I hope will also be yours. If I do my job well, you will also want to vacation at Ocean Isle, North Carolina.

Pier at Ocean Isle Beach, NC [Nikon D5, Sigma 24-105mm, ISO 100, ƒ/8, 1/200]

Do you know about the Dehaze Effect in Lightroom & PhotoShop?

May 2015, Adobe added to PhotoShop and Lightroom the Dehaze slider. The Dehaze tool helps you quickly reduce or remove haze, joint in many outdoor photos like landscapes.

Here is the above photo with the Dehaze at 0

Same photo settings but now Dehaze at +73

Now, if you were like me, you had an editing workflow, and when Adobe introduced a new tool, you may not even be aware of it. Well, I have been using it for about a year now. It works great.

Like all tools, you need to try it and see if it works for a photo or not.

This tool in Lightroom is at the bottom of the devices, just about Camera Calibration in the Effects module.

Here is a photo without the Dehaze applied

Here it is at +36

I recommend trying out this tool on your photos. You will be glad you did.

PhotoShop CC Instructions

Here is how you access it in PhotoShop CC. Go to Filter>Camera Raw Filter in the menu.

Then when in the RAW Filter, click on the ƒx tab. Then you will see the Dehaze slider on top.

Packing Solution for Checking Laptop & Cameras on International Flight

STREETWALKER® ROLLING BACKPACK V2.0

Thousands of flights and hundreds of thousands of passengers will be affected daily if the United States extends its so-called laptop ban to all international flights. For now, electronic devices more significant than a cellphone are banned from the cabin on flights bound for the United States from 10 airports in the Middle East and Africa.

IF

Traveling internationally has a prominent “IF” hanging over you when you travel with a laptop and other electronics, as most photographers do.

I needed a bag that, if/when they decide the laptop and cameras must be checked into the cargo hold, the gear is as safe as I can make it. I just bought the new ThinkTank StreetWalker Rolling Backpack v2.0.

STREETWALKER® ROLLING BACKPACK V2.0 on the left and the Airport Security V2 on the right.

While this is smaller than my Airport Security V2 I can put the laptop on the inside of the zipper and lock it with a TSA lock. This will make it a little more secure and protected than with the TakeOff that I also own.

The front flap on the Takeoff is designed for laptop, but not much padding or way to lock it.

My gear inside the StreetWalker Roller

I have been playing with what camera gear I will take with the laptop. I can put my extra batteries and cords in my ThinkTank Urban Approach 15, designed for smaller DSLR or mirrorless cameras.

Now, if I can keep the laptop with me, it will stay in the Urban Approach 15.

If the rules change, I will be prepared on the international flight to hand over my gear, including my laptop. I cannot afford to sit at the gate and discover the rules had just changed that day.

STREETWALKER® ROLLING BACKPACK V2.0 Side pockets look like a great fit for water bottles.

Here is another configuration from the ThinkTank website with Nikon Gear.

Today’s Photos of Memorial Day – Georgia National Cemetery

I saw many who would sit and stay for a while near their loved ones resting place at Georgia National Cemetery in Canton, Georgia. [Nikon D5, Sigma 24-105mm, ISO 250, ƒ/16, 1/100]

Today I went again to the Georgia National Cemetery in Canton, GA. The flags were at all the graves. Family and friends had left flowers for all those who had been buried at the cemetery.

Nikon D5, Sigma 24-105mm, ISO 100, ƒ/5.6, 1/250

Visiting the Georgia National Cemetery is a time for families to tell the stories of their family and close friends. They gave their lives for our freedoms to their children so that they, too, would understand what Memorial Day is all about.

Nikon D5, Sigma 24-105mm, ISO 140, ƒ/14, 1/100

Many headstones had multiple flower arrangements. This one also had a Challenge Coin. A challenge coin is a small coin or medallion (usually military) bearing an organization’s insignia or emblem and carried by the organization’s members. Traditionally, they are given to prove membership when challenged and to enhance morale. In addition, they are also collected by service members. In practice, unit commanders usually present challenge coins in recognition of a unit member’s exceptional achievement. They are also exchanged in recognition of visits to an organization.

Nikon D5, Sigma 24-105mm, ISO 140, ƒ/13, 1/100

Flowers, coins, military airborne patches, an American flag, and hand-drawn art adorn this grave. This is where you see the service’s impact on the whole community. Comrades leave the patches—coins for those to remember who also served with them. Flowers left by the family or friends and drawings from the children to say how much they miss their soldier.

Nikon D5, Nikon 85mm ƒ/1.8G, ISO 220, ƒ/1.8, 1/8000

Memorial Day was a response to the unprecedented carnage of the Civil War, in which some 620,000 soldiers on both sides died. The loss of life and its effect on communities throughout the country led to spontaneous commemorations of the dead.

Nikon D5, Nikon 85mm ƒ/1.8G, ISO 220, ƒ/1.8, 1/8000

In 1971, the Monday Holiday Law shifted Memorial Day from May 30 to the last Monday of the month.

Nikon D5, Sigma 24-105mm, ISO 100, ƒ/5.6, 1/250

This is what Memorial Day is all about. Take the time to remember the sacrifices of those who gave their lives in service to our country so that we might enjoy the freedoms of our democracy.

Nikon D5, Sigma 24-105mm, ISO 100, ƒ/5.6, 1/320

On May 30, 1868, President Ulysses S. Grant presided over the first Memorial Day ceremony at Arlington National Cemetery—which, until 1864, was Confederate General Robert E. Lee’s plantation.

Nikon D5, Sigma 24-105mm, ISO 100, ƒ/7.1, 1/250

Families from all over the country came to pay respects to their loved ones this Memorial Day at the Georgia National Cemetery.

Memorial Day – A time to pause

This is my Uncle 2nd Lt. James Stanley Leary, Jr., who was killed on Saipan by the Japanese on July 6, 1944. He is the one standing.

Georgia National Cemetery is the second national cemetery in Georgia and the 123rd in the national cemetery system. A private citizen donated the 775-acre site to the National Cemetery Administration in 2001. At maximum capacity, 330 acres of the site will be developed for burials; the remainder of the site is too steep to be used for interments. Historically, the site was used for logging purposes and residents’ hunting grounds.

Today I went to the Georgia National Cemetery located in Canton, GA. Due to the week’s rain, none of the American flags have been put on the gravestones.

This is how the cemetery will look once the flags are put in for the celebration of Memorial Day.

A good explanation of the differences of Veterans Day, Armed Forces Day and Memorial Day just before the Memorial Day holiday weekend (Kevin, PAO)

This is a great weekend to visit our national cemeteries around the country.

ON THE BEACH: On June 15, 1944, during the Pacific Campaign of World War II (1939-45), U.S. Marines stormed the beaches of the strategically significant Japanese island of Saipan, to gain a crucial air base from which the U.S. could launch its new long-range B-29 bombers directly at Japan’s home islands. The first wave of Marines takes cover behind the dunes on Saipan beach during the World War II invasion of the Marianas Islands. The soldier kneeling in the sand at the far right is Carl Matthews of Texas; second from right is Wendal Nightingale of Skowhegan, Maine; standing is Lt. James Stanley Leary of North Carolina. Neither Nightingale nor Leary made it home from Saipan; both are still listed as missing in action. [Time Life photo by U.S. Marine Sgt. James Burns]

Our family cannot go to the cemetery and find my Uncle James Stanley Leary’s grave. While we know he was killed in Saipan; the fighting was so fierce that two other marines died trying to rescue his body. His body was never recovered.

Here is a guide to the emblems you will see on the headstones in the national cemeteries.

The headstone with flowers has the Star of David which is the emblem for Jews. The Cross is for Christians.

I suggest paying attention to all the different faiths that have sacrificed for our freedom.

What I found interesting is that we had Muslims who served in WWII as Frankie Leroy Freeman.

There are even a variety of Christian markers.

Milton Robert Singer’s marker is for Community of Christ.
Peter E. Arnold is Presbyterian USA
A coin left on a headstone let’s the deceased soldier’s family know that somebody stopped by to pay their respect. Leaving a penny means you visited.

A nickel means you and the deceased soldier trained together at boot camp. If you served with the soldier, you leave a dime. A quarter is significant because it means you were there when that soldier was killed.

So what happens to the coins after Memorial Day? It is collected, and the money is used for cemetery maintenance, the cost of burial for soldiers, or the care for needy soldiers.

Supposedly the tradition became popular here in the United States during the Vietnam war. It is believed it was a way to show respect without getting into an uncomfortable political discussion about a very controversial war.

In general, however, this tradition can be traced as far back as the Roman Empire. It was a way to give a buddy some money for the hereafter.

It may surprise the casual visitor at Arlington National Cemetery to see a rubber duck on a headstone or an old football helmet lying in the manicured grass of a fallen soldier’s grave.

But this new generation of warriors is frequently remembered with mementos like beer cans, teddy bears, and even tiny bottles of hot sauce. The message in the souvenirs is unknown but likely very personal.

I saw service members remembering their friends. This marine left this for his friend.

I waited until he paid his respects to get the close-up of the Symbol of the Corps. The Eagle, Globe, and Anchor emblem has been part of the uniform since 1868 and became the official emblem of the Marine Corps in 1955.

The eagle with spread wings represents our proud nation. The globe points to a worldwide presence. The anchor stands for naval tradition. Together, they represent a dedication to service in the air, on land, and at sea.


Here is a suggestion for you. Please take a photo and post it to social media with your reasons that this moved you to pause and share.

Honor those who sacrificed for our freedom through a photo and a short caption.