This is the season of weddings. Weddings are one of the highlight events of our time here on earth. Jesus’ first miracle was at a wedding, and he used the wedding as a metaphor in his parables.

The bride belongs to the bridegroom. The friend who attends the bridegroom waits and listens for him, and is full of joy when he hears the bridegroom’s voice. That joy is mine, and it is now complete.

John 3:29

Few people can interrupt whatever I am doing and have my full attention. Each of these people is what I call my closest friend.

You can even know when someone else is interacting with a close friend. The mood changes and you see a glimpse of the joy in their hearts when interacting with their friend.

Jesus talked about what friends will do for one another.

This is how we know what love is: Jesus Christ laid down his life for us. And we ought to lay down our lives for our brothers.

1 John 3:16

What is so special about friendships that we stop what we are doing and give our full attention to these relationships?

Forgiveness is at the core of friendship. Tom Peters says corporations should reward people for failure because failure means risk; without risk, there can be no success. In Laura Beth Jones’s book, Jesus CEO, she relates a story:

I was once in a self-discovery group where people were not mincing words. One man, sitting very stiffly and quietly, was a candidate for promotion within his organization. His body language was a picture of caution and fear. Finally, a woman gave him this sound advice: “You need to fail a few times. Then you will understand that people will love you even when you are not perfect.”

We have all taken risks with people in the past and have been sorely disappointed by many of them. We found out who wasn’t our friend for sure. Most of us then learned to take fewer risks so we would not feel the pain of disappointment.

God did not rest until he created humanity in the Garden of Eden. He wanted relationships. His artistry created us in his likeness to desire relationships as well.

Reading the Bible, each story centers on the character’s relationship with others and God. God allowed Job to be tested because he knew how strong the association was, to begin with.

And the scripture was fulfilled that says, “Abraham believed God, and it was credited to him as righteousness,”^[a] and he was called God’s friend.

James 2:23

The footnote in my Bible for “God’s friend” says, “This designation (see 2Ch 20:7) further describes Abraham’s relationship to God as one of complete acceptance.

It has been said to have a friend; you must be a friend.

 

 

My friends, you must do all you can to show that God has really chosen and selected you. If you keep on doing this, you won’t stumble and fall.

2 Peter 1:10

The portfolio review is one of the tensest times for most photographers. Most everyone we show our work to is someone we would like to work with; therefore, anything less than I would like to use you is disappointing on some level. You are exposing your soul for review.

Some photographers have devised great presentations that help package their portfolios so the editor can see the images, know the photographer’s skill and how they see and have little trouble visualizing how it would look in their publication.

In photography, there are generally stages of development. At Southwestern Photojournalism Conference, Gary Fong and Jeanie Adams-Smith reviewed on stage three different photographers: a student, a pro with less than five years of experience, and a pro with more than five years of experience.

Gary asked how long they had been shooting, and with the student, he said this is good for your experience; if you had been shooting another year, not so good. With the seasoned photojournalist, Gary and Jeanie agreed the work was professional and technically superb. They wanted to see more intimacy in seasoned photographers’ work. They pointed to one photo, a slice of life where the viewer feels like they are part of the experience and how superior this was to the rest of his work.

At some point, for the Christian photojournalist, the shaft of God’s light shines brightly on you and reveals how your portfolio is a reflection of you. Are you personable? Do you get your hands dirty and into others’ lives? Jeanie Adams-Smith told one of the photographers how their photos showed their ability to get dirty.

My mentor Don Rutledge had two skills that I admired about his photography. The photo makes you feel like you are in the room with the subjects. The other skill was how Don could make the most cluttered environment coherent and beautiful. While these are excellent, they were the only framework for the content of most of his photos—love. You would see straight into the subject’s situations and feel compassion for them or joy from their actions.

Our portfolios must “show God has chosen and selected” us. We must do everything technically the best it can be, and then we must have our father’s eyes. We need to pray God will help us see his children as he sees them.

Photojournalism, at its best, is about relationships. It shows humanity interacting with one another. By doing this at our best, the world will begin to see the world as God desires and know you are his disciple.

³⁴But I am giving you a new command. You must love each other, just as I have loved you. ³⁵If you love each other, everyone will know that you are my disciples.

John 13:34-35

²¹I want all of them to be one with each other, just as I am one with you and you are one with me. I also want them to be one with us. Then the people of this world will believe that you sent me.

John 17:21